Relationship sabotage : unconscious factors that destroy couples, marriages, and family / William J. Matta. [print]

Includes bibliographies and index.

Foreword / Judy Kuriansky -- Acknowledgments -- Preface -- What people bring to counseling is often not the real problem -- The unconscious mind : friend or foe? -- The mixture of unconscious forces and childhood wounds can be lethal to a marriage -- Your family problems may have started back in medieval times -- Unconscious forces can destroy not only relationships, but whole families -- People who feel divorced but are still married -- Games people play in relationships -- Organizing problem-solving conversations -- Extramarital affairs : silence, secrets, and self-disclosure / Edward Igle -- Addictions : a vain attempt to make us feel whole / Daniel Hoffman -- Our nervous systems and relational problems -- Emotional detachment : the ultimate relational destroyer / Tami L. Grovatt-Dawkins -- So what now? -- Notes -- Index -- About the author and contributors.

"This disturbing, yet fascinating text shows us why some people carry a psychological need to sabotage their intimate relationships. It reveals how, in cases where children are involved during marital sabotage, it is the most sensitive child who bears the symptoms of the unhealthy family, showing behaviors from acting-out to developing mental illness. Perhaps more frightening, these hidden forces and unconscious factors can be passed from generation to generation, creating a trail of failed relationships." "Matta argues that we can learn to recognize these "imprints" and move past them to build or keep rewarding relationships. His book makes us aware, and gives us the tools to break the cycle."--Jacket.

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