The Boy Crisis : Why our boys are struggling and what we can do about it / Warren Farrell, John Gray. [print]

PART I: IS THERE REALLY A BOY CRISIS? -- The crisis of our sons' mental health -- The crisis of our sons' physical health -- The crisis of our sons' economic health -- The crisis of our sons' education -- The crisis of our sons' worldview -- Why are we so blind to the boy crisis?

PART II: WHY THE BOY CRISIS ISN'T YOUR FAULT -- The boy crisis: a problem created by a solution

PART III: THE PURPOSE VOID -- The path-to-purpose generation gap -- the power of purpose -- -- "I never thought you cared enough to ask" -- -- Your son's unconscious wisdom -- Can a "real man" transition from provider-protector to nurturer-connector? -- The "here paradox": value yourself by not valuing yourself -- A hero with a thousand faces -- The sirens of social bribes -- Social bribes: mom, men, the media, the military -- The catch-22 of your son-as-hero -- Why do more marriages fail in countries that succeed? -- -- The father's catch-22 -- The era of the multi-option mom and the no-option dad -- How did our daughters avoid the purpose void? -- -- "Sorry, it's a boy" -- How raising our sons successfully in the past differs from raising our sons successfully for their future -- Making money versus making a difference -- How to guide different boys toward different senses of purpose -- Our sons' new sense of purpose: the hero's journey to emotional intelligence -- Son-dropping -- Raising a balanced son in an out-of-balance world -- What happened to pickup team sorts? -- -- Helping your son find his "edge" -- -- Filling your son's purpose void: your son as hero

PART IV: DAD-DEPRIVED BOYS VERSUS DAD-ENRICHED BOYS -- Dad-deprived boys -- Boys who hurt, hurt us -- The lost boys: mass shooters -- ISIS: a gang of dad-deprived boys? -- -- Bio dad: the discovery of the dad brain -- Careers are for now; children are forever -- The absence of dad creates the presence of government -- Why are dads so important? -- -- Let me count the ways -- Rediscovering dad -- The generation of the dad rich versus the dad poor -- When does dad begin to matter? -- -- Stepdad or bio dad: does it make a difference? -- What dads do differently -- -- 1. Boundary enforcement (versus boundary setting) -- -- 2. Exploring nature, taking risks -- -- 3. Roughhousing: dad as a rough, tough cream puff ; -- -- 4. "Teachable moments": a little pain for a lot of gain -- -- 5. Challenging the kid's limits -- -- 6. Hangout time -- -- 7. Teasing: emotional intelligence training, dad-style? -- -- 8. The conditional or hierarchical dad -- The worrier and the warrior: the checks and balances of parenting -- In the event of divorce...the four "must-dos" -- The father warrior: why fathering will be a new male sense of purpose -- Match.com: the father warrior meets the have-it-all woman -- If men get paid more, is it realistic for a dad to be the primary parent? -- DAD: discrimination against dads -- -- "It doesn't feel right when I see them together" -- -- Moms have the right to children, dads have to fight for children -- How did father knows best become father knows less? -- -- Guiding your son to "make a difference" -- The best is both parents, but... -- -- The best "parent" is an attitude shif ; t -- Fighting in front of the kids -- No one asked why the men were drinking -- Cheap fun for dad and son -- Dad-inspiring movies -- When the best "parent" cannot be both parents -- The cub scouts and character -- Mentoring and rite-of-passage programs -- Grandfather time -- When the biological father is missing, can God the Father help? -- From "cultural shrug" to cultural shift -- Kill today, love tomorrow: the military dad dilemma -- From father's dime to father's time -- The government: as problem, as solution -- Creating a white house council on boys and men -- Our dads, our sons, our guns -- Creating dad-enriched families

PART V: HEROIC INTELLIGENCE VERSUS HEALTH INTELLIGENCE -- Heroic intelligence versus health intelligence -- Biologically, girls just live longer, right? -- -- Social bribes: Hollywood-heroic health versus mental and physical health -- Does the new heroine mean your son won't have to risk his life for her love? -- -- Health intelligence inventory -- Boy's weakness as their facade of strength -- Your son's body, not his choice -- -- "First and ten, concussion again!" -- -- My son wants to join the military. Is this good news or bad news? -- -- Your son's body, your son's choice: resisting the sirens of social bribes -- Emotional intelligence and mental health -- The barriers to a boy's emotional intelligence -- Behind your son's mask: filling the "compassion void" -- -- "I'm fine...just leave me alone." -- -- Helping your son take risks in life without risking his life -- How heroic intelligence and emotional intelligence play out in everyday life -- Moving to better neighborhoods helps girls and hurts boys -- The bully and the bullied -- Helping both the bully and the bullied -- Eighteen steps toward integrating emotional and physical health intelligence into heroic intelligence -- Reserving depression, preventing suicide -- Causes of suicide -- Women cry, men die -- If no human doing, no human being -- Suicide is contagious -- Diagnosing danger: the Warren Farrell male depression/suicide inventory (WFMDI) -- -- Preventing suicide -- Hidden hazards to your son's health -- The "sperm crisis": to be, or not to be -- Drinking and drugs -- The unholy trinity: obesity, diabetes, and erectile dysfunction -- From hurt people hurting people to healed people healing people -- Refilling the empathy void -- Couples' communication: your children's best inheritance

PART VI: ADHD: TREATMENT WITH OregonWITHOUT MEDICATION -- The new neural crisis -- A new spin on ADHD -- The four faces of ADHD -- The many causes of ADHD -- Addressing the cause to heal the brain -- Natural solutions to restore dopamine function -- Natural supplements for better brain performance -- Conclusion.

What is the boy crisis? It's a crisis of education. Worldwide, boys are 50 percent less likely than girls to meet basic proficiency in reading, math, and science. It's a crisis of mental health. ADHD is on the rise. And as boys become young men, their suicide rates go from equal to girls to six times that of young women. It's a crisis of fathering. Boys are growing up with less-involved fathers and are more likely to drop out of school, drink, do drugs, become delinquent, and end up in prison. It's a crisis of purpose. Boys' old sense of purpose-being a warrior, a leader, or a sole breadwinner-are fading. Many bright boys are experiencing a "purpose void," feeling alienated, withdrawn, and addicted to immediate gratification. So, what is The Boy Crisis? A comprehensive blueprint for what parents, teachers, and policymakers can do to help our sons become happier, healthier men, and fathers and leaders worthy of our respect.

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